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When Obsession Feels Like Love: Limerence in WLW Relationships with Christine Vargo, LCSW
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When Obsession Feels Like Love: Limerence in WLW Relationships with Christine Vargo, LCSW

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Liner notes

This episode is for women who are navigating WLW attraction, relationships, and the confusing space between obsession and love—especially if you're a late bloomer lesbian or came out later in life.

In this conversation with therapist Christine Vargo, LCSW, we talk about:

  • What limerence is and how it's different from love
  • Why lesbians U-haul and move so fast in relationships
  • The role of childhood trauma, neurodivergence, and attachment in limerence
  • Red flags when you think you're in love after a week (or a month)
  • Why no contact is essential after a breakup
  • How to stay with yourself in relationship and slow down
  • The "bump contract" and what your relationships are here to teach you

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Christine is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Gestalt Therapist, trained Daring Way™ Facilitator, and founder of The Real Poetic Paradox, LLC — a coaching business dedicated to supporting the LGBTQIA+ community in navigating relational dynamics, self-abandonment, and limerence. With over 13 years in private practice and an integrative approach rooted in trauma-informed care, Internal Family Systems, Somatic therapy, and Human Design, Christine brings both clinical expertise and deep compassion to her 1:1 work, clinical supervision, and groups.

In addition to her one on one work with clients, Christine is currently offering monthly group sessions for queer women navigating the experience of limerence, self-abandonment or trying to understand attachment dynamics in relationships. 

She’ll be launching her first online course: The Art of Staying: The Self-Trust Method for Love That Doesn’t Cost You Yourself in the Fall/Winter 2026.